A panic attack is a perfect example of lost control, to an extreme extent, on a physiological and a psychological level at the same time. As agoraphobia is the fear of having a panic attack, it’s also the fear of losing control. No wonder agoraphobic people can’t put up with situations they cannot get out of or cannot get instant help if needed. It’s all about the lack of ability to lose control and be vulnerable.
So while agoraphobia forces you to aim for control all the time, it can also serve as a tool to entitle you to be weak and vulnerable. For people who like to be seen as smart, confident and brave at all times, agoraphobia can be easily become an excuse to have the right to be weak and need support at times. Being taken care of can be a nice feeling, even for those who don’t usually ask for help.
If you never show your weaknesses and you never ask others to be there for you, not even when you’d really need them, agoraphobia can easily become an opportunity to get others take care of you. It’s an occasion from time to time to feel sorry for yourself and show your vulnerability to the world. But why would you think you need a condition like this to finally allow yourself to be vulnerable?
I’m not 100% sure what I want to say with this, there is still a lot to think about. For now all I mean is that letting vulnerabilities be part of your life will enable you to be more honest about your feelings, both to yourself and to your environment, which should somehow lead to a more stable state of mind. Right?